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The Biblical Role of Parents in a Child’s Life

When you become a parent, you take on a role unlike any other.  Even if you have been a babysitter, big sister, or fabulous fun Auntie -it’s not the same as being a parent. And if you’re like I was when I had my first baby, you probably are wondering what is the biblical role of parents in a child’s life?

What does the Bible say about being a parent? Before you had kids (or thought about having kids) you probably didn’t spend a whole lot of time looking at the Bible through that lens. Or maybe you became a parent before you became a Christian and you’re wondering how your new faith impacts or should impact your role as a parent. Either way, I hope by exploring this together here, you can get a better handle on what the Bible has to say about the role of parents!

What is the role of a parent?

Depending on where (or when) you live, the answer changes. The role of a parent is often defined by a culture’s view of what a child is, needs, and is capable of. Cultures and laws around the world and across history have treated children with a variety of perspectives – some treating children like property, animals, or like short adults.

Even in our current culture and time, there are variety of parental styles with their own nicknames – such as the helicopter parent, the tiger mom, and free-range parent. Each of these parenting styles have the parents doing a dance around a belief system about the needs, nature, and capabilities of children. In other words, our beliefs , especially about children, inform the role of being a parent. As Christians, that means looking to the Bible to help us understand our role.

What does the Bible say about being a parent?

The Bible helps us understand who we are, who God is, and the relationship between God and humanity. Eternal and often uncomfortable truths are revealed about our nature, our souls, and our history. Here are three truths I wish I had known earlier on in my parenting.

Parents don’t own their kids. God does.

“Behold, all souls are mine; as the soul of the father, so also the soul of the son is mine” (Ezekial 18:4, WEB)

“The earth and everything in it, the world and its inhabitants, belong to the LORD” (Psalm 24:1, HCSB)

Children belong to God

Parents experience great joy and sorrow because of their children.

“A wise son makes a glad father; but a foolish son brings grief to his mother”
Proverbs 10:1, WEB.

It is right for parents to let go as their children grow.

“Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh“
Genesis 2:24, WEB.

How soon should we let go and how much? It’s hard to say and truly does depend on the family and even particular child within that family. One thing’s for sure, your job description as a parent changes about as often as you “figure it out.”

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Areas of responsibility for Parents

Just because we don’t own our children, doesn’t mean we don’t have responsibility for their well-being. If you have a responsibility to care for something you don’t own, then you are a manager or steward. The primary biblical role of parents in a child’s life is to be a good steward of the children God has put into their care.

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What does it meant to be a good steward as a parent? Here are 3 main areas of responsibility for parents as biblical stewards.

Parents have the responsibility to tend to their children’s spiritual growth and education.

“Nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”
Ephesians 6:4, WEB.

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it”
Proverbs 22:6, WEB.

Parents have a responsibility to care for their children’s emotional well-being.

“Fathers, don’t provoke your children, so that they won’t be discouraged” Colossians 3:21, WEB.

“You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath”
Ephesians 6:4, WEB.

Parents are responsible to provide for their children’s physical needs.

“But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever”
I Timothy 5:8, WEB.

“A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children”
Proverbs 13:22, WEB.

These are just a few of the great number of Bible verses that speak to the responsibilities of proper stewardship, an essential to biblical parenting.

Examples of Good Parents in the Bible

There are many great parenting moments in the Bible, and definitely some bad ones too. I’ve chosen three examples that stand out to me, as good examples for the rest of us parents. The last of these, of course, being the best.

Hannah

Hannah’s story can be found in I Samuel 1. Hannah was sorrowfully barren and prayed for a child which she promised to surrender to God. When God gave her a son, she raised him until he was weaned, then brought him to the temple to serve. She prayed for her son, cared for him, and surrendered him to God.

The Father in Luke 15:11-32

In the parable most known as “The parable of the prodigal son,” Jesus tells about a father who gives lavishly to both of his sons. One goes off to live foolishly and the other stays home resentfully. It’s not his lavishly giving money and things that makes him a good father, but that he gives of himself so lavishly. He is low on judgement and big on mercy.

This father lived in such a way that the wayward son knew, even if only received as a servant, he would still live better under his father’s care. His father puts aside his own pride to run to his messy son with open arms and welcome him back to the family. As for the older son, this father seeks him out, to care for him too, when he refuses to celebrate his brother’s return.

Jesus

No I’m not saying Jesus had physical children, like we do. But Jesus was called the “Everlasting Father” in Isaiah 9:6. While on Earth, Jesus was fatherly towards his disciples. He even called them “little children” in Matthew 11:25 and told them he would not leave them “as orphans” in John 14:18.

If you are looking for a good earthly example on how to be godly parent – providing, protecting, guiding, correcting, teaching, preparing, modeling, encouraging, and loving – it doesn’t get better than Jesus with his disciples.

Some Final Thoughts on The Biblical Role of Parents

There’s a great deal more in the Bible than I’ve gone into here about being a parent. Just because a particular scripture is not directly addressing parents, doesn’t mean it doesn’t apply to parenting.

Everything that applies to the role (being stewards, leaders, and teachers) as well as every verse that talks about the “other” (love on another, etc) applies to parents. In all we do as Christians, we are to follow in the pattern of Jesus.

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The Biblical Role of Christian Parents in a Child's Life

It’s good to wary of “Christian” advice which doesn’t sit well with you. It can be tainted by worldly influences and worries. Ask the Holy Spirit, pray, and research scripture for yourself before trying any parenting advice.

God doesn’t want us to focus on a set of rigid rules, styles, or procedures. He is our Father who wants a relationship with us, so that we keep seeking and asking Him. It is in continual dependence on Him that we can be confident we living out the biblical role of parents in a child’s life.

If you’d like to read more on this subject, check out:

7 Godly Parenting Principles

Teaching Your Children to Have Integrity

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Christina Dronen

Christian mom who practices gentle parenting. Author of the Parenting In Christ Bible study discussion guides.

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8 Comments

  1. Excellent post on the Biblical role of Christian parents. I think the hardest point to wrap our heads around is that we don’t own our children, they belong to God. It’s hard to let go of that control.

    1. Thanks Heather!
      It is hard to let go of control… I think we have to be intentional about surrendering control on a continual basis, because our natural tendencies are to grab control… at least it really is for me. But really all sense of control is an illusion. Things beyond our control happen all the time and truly only God is in control, right!?

    2. Superb post, Christina! Lots of wisdom on parenting here! This is a truly great resource for parents of all ages!

      1. Thank you so much Melinda! I really hope it encourages and challenges parents to draw closer to Jesus!

  2. This is beautiful! We have such a great responsibility to steward, love, guide, protect and train up our children and then let them go and pray pray pray lol. The stewardship of parenting never goes away even when the kids move away. It has been such a labor of love for my hubby and I.

    1. Thanks Donna!

      Yes! Prayer along the whole way! Continual surrender and dependence on God is our best bet! 🙂
      And definitely – so much a labor of love!!

  3. Powerful reminders, Christina. You are great at parenting tips and parenting help from the Christian perspective…that should shape how we see everything in life. I’m familiar with authoritarian and permissive parenting styles, but the others were new to me and interesting. I like how your article developed a new style–The Biblical Parenting Style. 🙂 That’s the one I want to study and work on the most!

    1. Thanks for the encouragement Karen. As I learned about different Christian parenting styles and ideologies, I felt like they checked Jesus at the door. So many have claimed that Scripture covers it all in a few tiny verses. I wondered why God seemed to care so little about parenting. I prayed and prayed and searched Scripture for a while before I feel like Jesus revealed to me that all that he taught and lived does in fact apply to parenting… and the “don’t provoke your children” is “and in a addition, parents…”

      When I abandoned the mainstream and focused on Jesus, I saw a huge change in our family & in my kids.
      Jesus is THE way – the very best way.

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